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"For what it’s worth: it’s never too late to be whoever you want to be. I hope you live a life you’re proud of, and if you find you’re not, I hope you have the strength to start over again."

— F. Scott Fitzgerald (via un-exotic)

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Here is a snippet of what is going on at the 20th International AIDS conference in Melbourne, Australia via Twitter.

pozmagazine:

Check Out POZ Mag’s Continuing Coverage of #AIDS2014
We’re working hard in both Melbourne and NYC to help bring you all the latest research, advocacy, policy and news from the 20th International AIDS Conference.

pozmagazine:

Check Out POZ Mag’s Continuing Coverage of #AIDS2014

We’re working hard in both Melbourne and NYC to help bring you all the latest research, advocacy, policy and news from the 20th International AIDS Conference.

glsen:

gaywrites:

It’s official! President Obama has signed an executive order granting workplace equality to LGBT federal workers. This is a historic day — but we’re not done yet. Next up, let’s enact workplace protections for every LGBT employee, everywhere in the country. 

Check out GLSEN’s statement on this important event here

Anonymous said: Towards the whole "pronouns hurt people's feelings" topic. Am I REALLY the only person on the planet that thinks people are becoming far to sensative? Nearly to the point that they shouldn't leave their little home bubbles in the case that a bird chirps next to them in a way that sounds like a mean word. Maybe, JUST MAYBE, we're becoming a little TOO coddling and people need to learn to deal with simplistic shit like words. And yes, I've been insulted and made fun of. I got over it. So can you.

thefrogman:

Supposedly invented by the Chinese, there is an ancient form of torture that is nothing more than cold, tiny drops falling upon a person’s forehead. 

On its own, a single drop is nothing. It falls upon the brow making a tiny splash. It doesn’t hurt. No real harm comes from it. 

In multitudes, the drops are still fairly harmless. Other than a damp forehead, there really is no cause for concern. 

The key to the torture is being restrained. You cannot move. You must feel each drop. You have lost all control over stopping these drops of water from splashing on your forehead. 

It still doesn’t seem like that big of a deal. But person after person, time and time again—would completely unravel psychologically. They all had a breaking point where each drop turned into a horror. Building and building until all sense of sanity was completely lost. 

"It was just a joke, quite being so sensitive."

"They used the wrong pronoun, big deal."

"So your parents don’t understand, it could be worse."

Day after day. Drop after drop. It builds up. A single instance on its own is no big deal. A few drops, not a problem. But when you are restrained, when you cannot escape the drops, when it is unending—these drops can be agony. 

People aren’t sensitive because they can’t take a joke. Because they can’t take being misgendered one time. Because they lack a thick skin. 

People are sensitive because the drops are unending and they have no escape from them. 

You are only seeing the tiny, harmless, single drop hitting these so-called “sensitive” people. You are failing to see the thousands of drops endured before that. You are failing to see the restraints that make them inescapable.

Well said!

I guess today it’s time for another ask an expert blog!!
If you often find it hard to approach others or how to handle social situations then maybe this is a good blog for you.
Question:  Whenever I meet someone I want to date, I get too shy to talk to them!  What do I do?
Answer:  Start small! Could you ask this person how their weekend was? If you’ve had your eye on this person for a while, you probably know something about their interests—you could also try asking about one of them. Help the conversation flow by asking questions that don’t just have a “yes” or “no” answer. For example, instead of asking if they’ve seen any good movies lately (which is a yes or no question), ask them to tell you about the last good movie they saw.
If you don’t feel like you can strike up a conversation, could you just smile and say, “Hey?” Facing any kind of fear is a lot easier if you start with small steps that you know you can manage. And practice makes perfect. Try talking with other strangers or acquaintances so you can get the hang of making conversation when you’re a little nervous.
Maybe you’re also putting too many expectations on yourself. Are you thinking that you have to sound smooth, interesting, and brilliant all the time? That no one should ever reject you? These kinds of perfectionist expectations cause us to blow social situations out of proportion and get more nervous than we need to be. Perfectionism also isn’t very realistic. Everyone has awkward moments and gets rejected sometimes—not everyone is compatible, and a fun part of life is finding out who you do click with.
You’re in good company—most people say they have been shy at some time in their lives. That said, if shyness is bothering you so much that it gets in the way of your goals, social life, work, education, or other parts of your life, you might have a problem called social anxiety disorder. The good news is that social anxiety disorder can be treated, with medications or a type of counseling called cognitive behavioral therapy. To learn more about social anxiety disorder and how it can be treated, check out this fact sheet (http://socialphobia.org/social-anxiety-disorder-definition-symptoms-treatment-therapy-medications-insight-prognosis) and talk with your doctor. 
In any case, shyness does not need to stop you from living life the way you want to. Every time you practice making conversation, you have succeeded–no matter how the other person responds. Start small, practice often, and happy hunting!
“Ask an Expert” is our new blog series where questions from LGBTQ youth are answered by researchers at the IMPACT Program. This month’s expert is Michelle Nicole Burns, PhD, Assistant Professor in the Department of Preventive Medicine at Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine.

I guess today it’s time for another ask an expert blog!!

If you often find it hard to approach others or how to handle social situations then maybe this is a good blog for you.

Question:  Whenever I meet someone I want to date, I get too shy to talk to them!  What do I do?

Answer:  Start small! Could you ask this person how their weekend was? If you’ve had your eye on this person for a while, you probably know something about their interests—you could also try asking about one of them. Help the conversation flow by asking questions that don’t just have a “yes” or “no” answer. For example, instead of asking if they’ve seen any good movies lately (which is a yes or no question), ask them to tell you about the last good movie they saw.

If you don’t feel like you can strike up a conversation, could you just smile and say, “Hey?” Facing any kind of fear is a lot easier if you start with small steps that you know you can manage. And practice makes perfect. Try talking with other strangers or acquaintances so you can get the hang of making conversation when you’re a little nervous.

Maybe you’re also putting too many expectations on yourself. Are you thinking that you have to sound smooth, interesting, and brilliant all the time? That no one should ever reject you? These kinds of perfectionist expectations cause us to blow social situations out of proportion and get more nervous than we need to be. Perfectionism also isn’t very realistic. Everyone has awkward moments and gets rejected sometimes—not everyone is compatible, and a fun part of life is finding out who you do click with.

You’re in good company—most people say they have been shy at some time in their lives. That said, if shyness is bothering you so much that it gets in the way of your goals, social life, work, education, or other parts of your life, you might have a problem called social anxiety disorder. The good news is that social anxiety disorder can be treated, with medications or a type of counseling called cognitive behavioral therapy. To learn more about social anxiety disorder and how it can be treated, check out this fact sheet (http://socialphobia.org/social-anxiety-disorder-definition-symptoms-treatment-therapy-medications-insight-prognosisand talk with your doctor. 

In any case, shyness does not need to stop you from living life the way you want to. Every time you practice making conversation, you have succeeded–no matter how the other person responds. Start small, practice often, and happy hunting!

“Ask an Expert” is our new blog series where questions from LGBTQ youth are answered by researchers at the IMPACT Program. This month’s expert is Michelle Nicole Burns, PhD, Assistant Professor in the Department of Preventive Medicine at Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine.

pozmagazine:

Media Bungles Another HIV Story
In a rash of inaccurate and hyperbolic reporting, numerous press outlets (from the Atlantic to Joe. My. God.’s blog) misreported over the weekend that WHO wants all gay men to take PrEP.
It’s really just a recommendation. Here are the facts on the announcement.

Thanks for clarifying!

pozmagazine:

Media Bungles Another HIV Story

In a rash of inaccurate and hyperbolic reporting, numerous press outlets (from the Atlantic to Joe. My. God.’s blog) misreported over the weekend that WHO wants all gay men to take PrEP.

It’s really just a recommendation. Here are the facts on the announcement.

Thanks for clarifying!

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